31 Days to a Closer Family


31 days to a closer family

One stressed out family….

This is the beginning of a series that is going to be a little bit different from what I usually post about. It’s different because it actually has nothing whatsoever to do with my house, although to fair it is technically a DIY project. See this is more of a family project, as in it’s the family that needs a makeover. Those of you who have been following the blog for the last couple of months know how much we’ve taken on recently, but what I haven’t talked much about is how much it has cost us. It has cost quality family time, almost all of it.  Since June we have rented out our old house, moved in with my mom, bought a new house, renovated the new house, and after a year of staying home full time I went back to work part-time, so the kids started pre-school. It was a lot for Cody and I to handle. In fact we spent most of the summer stressed, and I had frequent bouts of panic attacks in the middle of the night. We’ve even asked ourselves if getting into our dream home was worth all the stress it has caused. Our kids were troopers though all the upheaval. In fact they were so good that we sort of forgot that this all might be stressful on them too. That was until we finally got settled into the new house and Sophie told me “quit your job and stay home with us again” and Lizzie started screaming if I went anywhere near her, and they both cried when we dropped them off at pre-school. It was enough to make me consider quitting even though I really like my new job. Cody and I had a serious talk and decided that something had to change: we needed to spend more time as a family.

The 31 day challenge….

Not long after we had that conversation I came across the 31 Days of Change on The Nesting Place. The challenge is for bloggers to write one post a day in October on the same topic. My first thought was “I love a challenge”, my second was “I don’t have time for this”. Honestly, the last thing I need right now is more work, but I choose to take on the challenge for two reasons:

  1. I really, really can’t resist a challenge.
  2. I need the accountability.

Many bloggers choose to write about DIY projects and that’s an obvious natural fit for me, except for that pesky promise of making more time for my family, so I decided that my project would be my family. My goal is to become a closer family in 31 days by spending at least 30 minutes of quality time together each day. You may notice that that is the second time I have put “quality” in italics. That’s because I really want to focus on being present with the kids. In other words sitting next to them on the coach while they watch TV and I flip through a magazine doesn’t count, nor does bringing them on play dates. The challenge does not just apply to us actually spending time with our kids, but also in writing about it. I’m fully prepared to report back about the plans that fell through, the temper tantrums, and the nights that mommy would rather eat raw cookie dough in a dark closet than spend another minute answering questions from an inquisitive 4 year old, but I’m also hoping to find a sense of peace in quiet hours spent together after a long day.

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Spending some quality time together at a recent high school football game

Your role…..

So, what exactly is your role in all of this? Mostly it’s to hold me accountable to the challenge, but also I welcome advice, ideas, and all types of moral support. After all we’re in this together for 31 days. I’d love it even more if you’d play along. I know we’re not the only family out there looking to reconnect. This introductory is pretty long, but I promise you that most of the posts will be short and sweet. And for those of you who prefer the renovation updates; don’t worry I’ll still be pumping those out as well, as long as they don’t interrupt quality time with the family.

Day 1: Scheduling Family Time

Day 2: Child Led Instruction

Day 3: Feeding the Obsession

Day 4: Date your Spouse

Day 5: Family Bike Ride

Day 6: Field Day

Day 7: Story Time

Day 8: Camping under the roof

Day 9: Dance Party

Day 10: Spa Party

Day 11: Creating mini Hipsters

Day 12: Family Breakfast

Day 13: Arts and Crafts

Day 14: Give it a Break

Day 15: Walk-A-Long

Day 16: Get in Character

Day 17: Ice cream Sundaes

Day 18: Dining Out

Day 19: Get your color on

Day 20: Let them eat cake

Day 21: Cuddle Time

Day 22: When Life gives you Lemons…..

Day 23: Cookie Monsters

Day 24: The Family that Paints together……

Day 25: Party Time

Day 26: Create a Tradition

Day 27: Going-A-Visiting

Day 28: Pumpkin Carving

Day 29: Hanging Out

Day 30: Halloween Family Style

Day 31: A little perspective

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13 thoughts on “31 Days to a Closer Family”

  1. Great topic. I am a mother of four and believe me, after they leave home its gets very quiet again. Having children was the best thing I ever did in life, no regrets. I remember the craziness, the dinners or lack of, the tears and the laughter. It was all so worth it.

  2. Our topics seem to be somewhat similar so I’ll be here cheering you on! My boys are bit older than your kids (8 &12) but that quality family time is still a challenge and I still have those days/nights that I’d rather hide and eat cookie dough as well.

  3. I think this is a great topic. Not only will you be able to reconnect with your family, you’ll be getting a break from your usual topics. It’s refreshing. Looking forward to your posts 🙂 Best wishes.

  4. Parenthood has crazy days, but then it’s nice when everyone is playing nice. Great idea, great challenge. I can relate, as I work full time outside of the home, and my kids are older, 17 and 7. We make the most of our time together, even if it’s just lounging around the house (which rarely happens).

  5. Love this idea!!!! How much better this world would be if we all did this!

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